There are many different paths to our own individual success – whether it be by life coaching, self help, personal development, leadership training or something else.
Yet when we talk about success we often think first and only of career success and money. But there are two other cornerstones of success that are more important.
These 3 cornerstones are crucial and ever present to our lives. They are the foundation to our happiness and success. But are they taught in school? For some reason no. So we have to self-educate ourselves on all three, because we need success in all three to truly enjoy life to the full.
The good news is we can all dramatically improve each one, much more quickly and easily than we might think.
I’ve spent a lot of time and effort investigating all three. Here is my ultra fast guide to each, showing you in each little known shortcuts that bring the greatest results.
Success Cornerstone 1 – Vibrant Health
The most important cornerstone. Without this everything else becomes difficult or impossible.
The number one thing for optimal health that you need to do is eat right and exercise – ENJOYABLY! Almost every single diet and exercise program skips the ‘enjoy’ part and it drives me insane. We are all fallible human beings who can only rely on willpower just a little.
Most diet and exercise programs also lack flexibility and variety. We all have different food tastes, we all like to vary things up. Diets that don’t include these are set up to fail.
If you aren’t looking after your body with proper diet and exercise, you can’t realistically expect to cure yourself of other ailments. Do you think your car would run well with sand in the fuel tank? What would the mechanic say when you went to get it fixed? Clean the fuel first, then come back to me!
Your body is the same. You need to fix it’s fuel otherwise it won’t run right.
Eating right
- Does involve easy, enjoyable and natural fast weight loss
- Does NOT involve restricting calories or portion control. Just eat as much as you want from a long list of healthy foods.
- Does NOT involve giving up your favourite unhealthy foods. That would be wrong and not at all fun. Just eat less of them.
- Does involve eating often, enjoying your food and plenty of variety.
- Does involve a lightbulb moment when you slap yourself on the head and say ‘the answer is so obvious, how can conventional wisdom be so wrong!’
Exercising right
- Does NOT involve too many hours in the gym. Too many hours moves you away from optimal health not towards.
- Does involve plenty of variety
- Does involve lots of walking, plus little bits (no more than half an hour, often just a few minutes) of more intense activity.
Smoking and other addictions
There is one key principle that is ignored by 99% of all stop smoking and other addictions programs. Indeed 99% of programs preach the opposite. But it’s not true. Stopping addictions can be easy. Yes easy.
Depression.
Don’t go onto the anti-depression drugs unless you’ve tried regular exercise first. The mind and body are linked. If your body is not being treated right, the mind will get unhappy.
Success Cornerstone 2 – Massive Wealth
You want more money? The answer is simple. You need to provide more value, either value to your employer if you are an employee or value to customers if you are in business. This is always a 2 step process.
Step 1. Ask yourself this. Ask it again and again and again until you get an answer that inspires you:
“How can I add more value?”
Step 2. Got an answer? Good. The trick here is to be inspired. Often it just seems such a long and difficult road that it all seems too much. But with inspiration you’ll take it one step at a time and get there quicker than you think. You’ll need to work hard and you don’t know how you’ll get there yet but inspiration will pull you there step by step. And you’ll enjoy it, be compelled to do it. If you aren’t excited and inspired by the work and the goal, you didn’t answer the question in Step 1 properly. Go back to step 1. and find your answer. Don’t stop til you have it.
Success Cornerstone 3 – Passionate Relationships
Relationship trouble:
- Don’t set expectations on others beyond basic courtesy and what you have agreed to. This is unfair. They are themselves, not you or anybody else. They are dealing with their own problems. They have a different view on the world.
- Love them. Love is a verb, a doing word. Annoyed? Angry? Hurt? Then love them.
- Drop the baggage. You don’t need it. Really. Drop it. Now.
- Realize this : We forgive others the things we don’t forgive in ourselves and don’t forgive in others the things we forgive in ourselves. So forgive yourself. Forgive them.
- Got something to say to somebody after forgiving them? Say it. Better out than in.
Romance:
- Finding romance is a numbers game – it’s meeting as many people as possible who are interested in you. So take action to meet those people. Do something you are scared of or previously would never have considered.
- Men – women will test you. They will do things to test whether you really mean something or not. Expect it.
- Women – when you want to know what a man is thinking, have low expectations. It’s probably not something deep and meaningful about your relationship and it probably is something quite mundane.
- Men – women will forgive you trying to kiss them at the wrong time. They won’t forgive you NOT trying to kiss them at the right time.
- Women – men can only think of one thing at a time. Interrupting a train of thought at critical times can be really frustrating.
The big success psychology tip is this – if you are relying on willpower, you are doomed to fail or doomed to repeat and endless painful cycle. Everyone can find their ‘sweet spots’ for health, wealth and relationships where moving forward on them is enjoyable.
