Nov

A Self Improvement Lesson: Why Average People Remain Average

portfeed on November 1st, 2008

If you do what you’re expected to do, don’t expect an outstanding result, my friend.

Study successful people and you’ll sure to discover one thing that many of them would have in common… they live by that words of “always do more than what is expected of you.”

I don’t care. It could be sleeping an hour less everyday to have more time to build your wealth or whatsoever.

Whether you are mowing people’s lawn or someone is mowing your lawn, when you are teaching a seminar or being a participant, or when sharing your knowledge or giving advice to your people, always do or give more than what people expect. Then they will flock around you, they will line up to meet you and be happy to support you in whatever thing that you want to do next.

If you’re training to be a champion, don’t just train like an average player. Train more than you’re expected to train.

If you’re building a multi-level marketing business, increase the numbers of prospects you would like to meet everyday. If it used to be 10, now you would have at least 12. By just increasing your effort 20%, you’ll end up with 60 new prospects a month. Now, that’s what I called exponential.

Trying to win a girl’s heart? I’m not surprise that you could be “competing” with three other guys for the same girl. And you can only win if you’re giving more than all of them if everyone’s equal. I’m not saying giving more money or buying stuff’ give love, time or whatever that counts to her.

Whenever you are interacting with people or in a relationship, treat the other party extremely well.

Whatever is expected of you in that relationship, be it with your girlfriend or business partner or client, your spouse or your friend, always do or give more than what is expected of you in that relationship for that is the secret of making it a success.

It is not that you have to do or give a whole lot more; you have to do just a little bit more than the rest. That’s it. The 10mm-difference is what Anthony Robbins calls it for you to become outstanding… in any undertaking.

To do this, it’s not difficult. But most people are just too lazy to put in the effort. I’m one of them but I’ll always keep reminding myself this- winner takes all. There is no second place, my friend. I would rather strive with the extra effort to get #1 because the pay off is many times greater.

Do you remember who the second best basketball player is? Nope. You can remember Michael Jordan because he’s #1. In fact, as far as I know, there’s no such place as ‘the second best basketball player’.

Who’s the second fastest runner in the world? Who knows. I just know the #1.

Others have called this ‘more than expected attitude’ as ‘going for the extra mile’. Notice that they don’t say the extra 10 miles.

How come?

Because the average persons don’t bother to do more than what is expected of them. I know it’s sad but that’s the truth.

To most people, “always do more than what is expected of you” are mere words and they don’t put substance to it because people are greedy and they just want to do the bare minimum to make money, to make a profit or whatever.

And guess what… successful people are never your average people.

To be generous and to treat others extremely well, you must come from the perspective of abundance thinking. Then only “always doing more than what is expected of you” will come easy and naturally.

So the next time you are with somebody, or in a business negotiation, or just interacting with another person, ask how can I help you… without even expecting any return.

As the other saying goes, commonly heard in self improvement — you have to give, in order to get. In fact, if you want to gather riches you have to be as generous as you can. Touch people’s lives profoundly, in ways that they would never forget. Give it forward… help another and that person will help another. Always do more than what is expected of you. Do this and the reward will come to you 10 folds or 100 folds when you are least expecting it.

Do you think you can do more than what you’re doing today? Of course you can. The question is… DO YOU WANT OR NOT? You’ll have to decide for your own future on that.

Note: This article is written by Patric Chan who shares his experience about achieving success and wealth at his personal improvement blog. You can also join his self help forum for free and meet like-minded positive people.

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Oct

How You Can Feel Uplifted By Your Kids

portfeed on October 15th, 2008

enjoy those quiet moments when all the kids are sleeping or out of the house for a while. You should never feel guilty about enjoying those moments. They are usually rare moments and they don’t last long; but you need quiet time in order to refuel your spirit. If you never get time to yourself you may soon run low on energy and feel run down all the time.

Children can run on energy that leaves parents wondering where they got that energy from to begin with. Have you ever watched your child while they were playing or working on something in particular? They smile, laugh, and enjoy their time that they are busy.

Children have a positive attitude about almost everything because they are not stressed out nor are they aware of the stress of everyday life. That’s because you are coping with all the stressful laugh and enjoy simple pleasures more during the day? You can and its’ easier than you think. Learn how you can feel uplifted through your child.

The first thing to do is to relax and unwind; try some easy relaxation techniques. You won’t be enjoying anything if you are stressed and tense. You won’t be able to relax if the phone rings or the television is blaring, so turn them all off. Enjoy the day with your kids by devoting your day to you and your kids only.

Here are some great ideas on feeling better and improving your well being through interacting with your child:-

* Playtime is your time. Spend the day playing whatever your child wants to play. It will make you smile.

* Play dress up. Sometimes dressing up with your child allows them to act like someone else and it allows you to be someone else for a while too.

* Read a book. Reading to your child will also make your mind open up to new ideas and relieve stressthat may be bothering you Reading a book with a positive ending can have the same affect as watching a movie with a happy ending..

* Let your kid help with some chores. It can be fun to do something together.

* Hugging allows your body to have a positive impact. You immediately start to feel loved, warm and happy just by hugging. Your child needs a hug just as much as you do. Enjoy your hugs.

Children can be fantastic at rebuilding self esteem – nothing is better than being told you are the best.

Every now and then life becomes so frantic that you may have to schedule playtime in with your child; but do whatever it takes in order to get that time. In order to find happiness with the rest of the world, you first need to be happy at home. Your kids will also sense your happiness and it will send a positive attitude that they can pass on. Even though they are kids, people still look into their eyes or feel their love through a hug. One happy child can make a dozen parents happy just by being around them.

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